Very interesting article : How to Improve Your Life in 8 Steps
A great way to start turning your life around. I know I need to work on point 7 – to find tie for daily exercise.
How about you?
Here and now
Yesterday I met a very interesting person.
Let’s call her Mandy. We had a little chat about this and that (you know, the usual ‘weather’ chat)…
And then she said that last year, in August she decided to quit smoking. So I asked how that went.
She said that she made it (bravo!!!) and instead of spending the money, every time when she thought like having a cigarette she put that money away. as per yesterday she have saved £1200!!!!!!! And now she is thinking about a holiday somewhere nice!
Isn’t that amazing?
That is a great example of what commitment and discipline can do for you.
Imagine what could you achieve if you were so committed to your goals? And you had put all the discipline to stay on it every day?
What goal do you constantly put away, simply because you lack discipline?
Is it saving?
Is it exercising?
Is it reading?
Or is it simply the attempt to keep your house tidy (that is a big one for me;))
Whatever it is…
Make a choice today to get to it.
Mandy did it
So you can do to.
Be happy. Here and now
My favourite point of it: CREATE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS. DON’T WAIT FOR IT!
Be happy. Here and now.
No, they don’t have superpowers; they have determination, vision and purpose.
To your happiness
…is how you do everything.
A powerful quote, isn’t it? I came across it last night, while reading The Success Principles by Jack Canfield.
It gave a lot to think about. So much, that I actually was lying in bed for a long time without even feeling sleepy (last time I looked at the watch was 3 am(!), and I had to get up at 5.30. so not much sleep for me).
I was staring at the celling reviewing my life. All my actions; all my goals, those accomplished and those still in progress. After a while it became clear to me what I needed to improve. unfortunately it was a bit late to write al down in my journal. So I only made a quick note (bullet points) to remind myself what I needed to do.
So here I am. As I am writing this post I am actually taking a small break from a review. I write each goal separately and revise my action plan. Write down what is working and what is not. Write down what I am planning to do (and what I am planning to stop doing).
SO this becomes a Goal now.
And I am going to set up a recurring event in my diary to do it al least every three months. To keep a reminder for for doing it.
To your happiness
It happens to all of us.
We have this bid dream, this goal. To save money, to lose weight. Whatever.
So we start big: we transfer half of our monthly (or weekly) income to the newly opened savings account or come up with a rigid, strict eating and exercising plan. So off we go and…
After few days we feel overwhelmed, exhausted, even defeated.
Because after a week, we have not saved a fortune (dah!) or lost those stubborn 3 stones!
Why did it happen?
- We had unrealistic deadline (remember: there are no unrealistic goals, only crazy deadlines)
- We wanted it to achieve after one, big week of sacrifice. and at the end we have been defeated by our own old habit.
You may ask: how come? What my habits have to do with it?
If you have not saved any money for the last 10 years or so, it is very unlikely you will save half of your income this month (or week). You probably spend everything you earn, and then at the end of the month you wonder where the money went. and to be honest I do not know anybody, who would manage to save 50% of their salary (The Big Wealth/Rich savers aim for 20%)
And if you never exercised, you will not start exercising 60 minutes a day.
So what should I do? You may ask.
My answer is this: start small.
Do you want to save money: Start with saving 1% of your income.
Do you want to start exercising: start with 10-15 minutes’ walk a day.
First develop a small habit, and then, bit by bit, increase the limit: make it 2% of your income, and 20-30 minutes’ walk.
In achieving big goals, those small steps count the most. They allow you to be consistent. After a while you are so into the ‘saving’ and ‘exercising’ mode that you do those things almost on autopilot. This becomes a part of your live, your natural day-to-day activity.
A while ago I have read this: ‘Inconsistency steals your dreams. Stay consistent in what you do, that how you create the life of your dreams’.
To your happiness…
I know, I know. It is easy to say don’t give up.
Have you ever had days that everything went wrong? of course you have. Everyone has those days. Days, that make you feel like your whole life is a mistake and a failure, and it’s time to grow up!
But what does that mean? Please, think about it.
You have your dreams, plans for the future, goals, desires…. you have a vision in your head. Sometimes you sit on the sofa late at night and dream about the life you want. you close your eyes – suddenly you have everything you need in life with a great feeling of being in control. You know what you want and how to get it.
And what happens then? You tell yourself to ‘grow up’! You tell yourself to stop dreaming and get back to the reality. Today was a complete failure. You were supposed to be good with food – you overate. You were supposed to be frugal today – you overspent. You were supposed to exercise – you did not. You blew everything you planned and the day is over!
But wait a minute – moments like this are the best to start – You are aware of what needs to be done (while most people still lives in denial, waiting to be saves or fixed by somebody else) and you know what went wrong. Learn from it. Identify the triggers: what made you over eat, over spend, etc? What can you do better when you wake up the next day?
Remember, that “tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes in to us at midnight very clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands, and hopes we’ve learned something from yesterday.” (John Wayne).
Somebody said that the struggle of today is the strength of tomorrow. Do not beat yourself up!
Follow Winston Churchill’s advice: “Never give up. Never, never give up”.
Give yourself a chance!
To your happiness…